What is the Kundali matching score?
Kundali matching in nutshell is a marriage compatibility analysis for a couple so they can be assured about the good future of their marriage. But we should never forget that it is a process weighted upon some numbers. These numbers are the Kundli matching score or gunas.
The Kundli matching process analyses the different areas of marriage compatibility and the kundli matching score tells us about how good you and your partner can collectively perform in those areas.
Definition: Kundali matching score is an indicator that tells how well a bride and groom goes together in different areas of marriage. Therefore kundli matching score can give us an idea about the ease of achieving a happy married life.
Interpretation of the Low or High Score in Kundli Matching
An expert astrologer will suggest that a couple should at least score 18 points in kundli matching. The total points in matching horoscopes are 36. The astrologer is trying to say that there should be a minimum of 50% points scored for a good marriage. This is a very cautious approach and therefore widely accepted as well.
But what does this low score says and what does a high score say?
The event of a low score and high score in a kundli match may mean different things for different couples.
How to Interpret the Kundli Matching Score of Yours with Your Partner?
Whenever you get your kundli matching score [with Rashi and Nakshatra only] pay attention not only to the numbers but also where they are being scored.
For example, if we talk about kundli matching by the Ashtakoot method: There are different areas where you can score for marriage compatibilities like matching of Nadi, Gana, Yoni matching or Bhakoot matching.
Two cases of kundali matching might have the same score. But that same score can be coming from different areas of compatibility.
That different composite score in each case tells about different possible relationships.
For example, one couple might score very good in Bhakoot matching while another couple might score very good in Gana matching and the rest all being similar both the couples might end up with a similar score. But the same approach towards the relationship might not work out for both.
A couple with good Bhakoot and but not so good Gana matching can have an emotional bond as the strength of their relationship. While one with good Gana and unmatched Bhakoot has very similar mental and behavioural temperaments.
Basic understanding for Interpretation of the Low or High Score in Kundli Matching
Now let's see how marriage matching can be understood with different scores. For the convenience of understanding, I will talk about different areas of marriage as different compatibilities like mental compatibility and sexual compatibility etc. and not like Yoni matching or Tara matching. You can refer to what this term relates to in Kundli matching Koota table.
Whatever may be the score a couple must be scoring that at different matching levels. If a couple scores very good in mental compatibility of friendship, they might be scoring very good in Gana matching and Tara matching. The core part to understand here is to check where you are scoring good and where you are scoring badly.
Build your relationship around the stronger areas of marriage compatibility given by kundli matching. If you focus too much on the missing part of a kundli match it might result in a negative approach towards your relationship.
People with a high kundli matching score also has a dissatisfied relationship and it is a known fact observed by many astrologers.
What impact a low kundli matching score can have on your love life after marriage?
A low kundli matching score means that a couple is lacking a score or has not scored well in more than one major area of kundali matching. But still, they might have some areas where they have points. The major possible problem for such a couple is that they might have to do more hard work and a give sincere approach to the relationship. And still, it will be tough to say whether your boat of love will sail or not.
But many couples with low kundli matching scores have taken their married life towards a good end. This is also a known fact.
The fun fact of vedic astrology is that: A good matching kundlis with good compatibility and a successful married life with happiness in marriage are two different things. This is one of the main astrological reason that why people with good kundali matching score ends up complaining about their happiness in married life.
How to decide on marriage if you have a low kundli matching score?
We will list some common things to remember while making a decision based on the kundli matching score:
- Long Relationships are lived at different stages of life. Don't make your all decisions only based on the current stage.
- If you have tested your relationship in tough times and still managed to survive back to a fair time of life. Forget the kundli matching score stick with your partner.
- Understand the fact that you can have arguments and bad days in a relationship with both the type of life partner, the one with whom you scored well in kundali matching and the one with whom you scored badly.
- Happiness in a love relationship is a subjective part of kundli analysis. So it will depend more on your karmic effects of 7th house in astrology rather than kundali matching.
- Mangal dosha is bad and very harmful in only fewer cases.
- Don't be afraid of the word 'dosha'. Whenever an incompatibility exists in a kundali match, the areas of incompatibility is referred to as dosha or defect or shortcoming. For example, a non-matching Nadi is referred to as Nadi dosha.
- Play long term games. Means think of a long term relationship with the attitude of "how this relationship will work out in a long run". If the answer is doubtful go with the kundli matching score.
- Understand that naturing and maintaining a relationship with a 20 plus point score will be comparatively easier than one with less than 18 points of Guna Milan.
Should You Believe Your Love or a Kundli Matching Score?
Whether you should believe in your love or a kundli matching all depends on your core concept of love and also your understanding of the purpose of kundli matching. Believing and relying on both has a certain amount of risk. So we will advise that believe in whatever you trust the best and can continue to trust. Kundali matching might seem logical but it is also limited and can cause dissatisfaction in later days. Vedic astrology is vast.
What if we want to still marry despite a low kundli matching score?
If you have lived past one tough time together with your partner. You will have the idea and answer for the questions.
If you are seeking sukha of marriage or bliss of married life with kundali matching only, then it is an unrealistic quest for you. As per vedic astrology, the real bliss of married life only comes with an understanding of marriage and good past karmas.
How can we make a marriage work despite a low kundli matching score?
Marriage can work with any kind of kundli matching score. But when we talk about a low kundli matching score. For a marriage to work out, it should have compensating factors both astrologically and environmentally as well. The environment in which your relationship will thrive will also matter.
A couple with a very bad tuning in a relationship from the point of kundli matching will have a natural tendency to fall apart. If it surpasses a certain limit. It is hard for that relationship to survive.
If you have good tuning and both of you always find a way to back to each other, there are high chances that a bad kundli match might have been compensated by some other considerations of astrology.
How to bring your love life in harmony with the kundli matching score?
Maintaining a good love life with any kundli matching score is still a task. The act of matchmaking either with kundli matching or anything else can be a good guiding factor but cannot assure a successful marriage. The everlasting success in marriage and happy married life is very subjective from couple to couple.
If your life partner agrees you can discuss it with them. Both of you can describe your needs in different areas of marriage and can understand how comfortable the other partner is with it. This partnership and marital harmony is much dependent on mutual give and take. All the fights and future conflicts may arise from it. If you both have a good understanding backed by a good mutual discussion about it. Then you can move forwards with checking what you both have on the table with kundli matching scores. The good and bad of kundli matching.
Bringing lasting harmony to a relationship is an acquired skill. A bride and groom have to learn this skill because every relationship is unique. And a bride and groom eventually adjust themselves as per their needs of marital life and outcomes of their horoscope match or a kundali match.
